The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a F**k – Sarah Knight.
I’ve managed to teach myself that if I ever feel guilty, it’s because I’m a bad person or I’ve done something I shouldn’t. This has led me to go to events, complete tasks, spend time and energy on things that aren’t worth it. In other words, doing things that don’t make me happy.
I can safely say that I’m sure I’m not the only person who has done this. Although, that in itself is not a safe thought.
We only have one life, which for whatever reason could end up being shorter than we expect. Yet for some reason, we spend our time making sure we please others and relate this to happiness. I am very guilty of this.
Let me give some examples of things I’ve done that don’t make me happy. 1. Feeling like I need to only wear the current fashion trends, even if it doesn’t suit my pear body shape or is incredibly uncomfortable. E.g. short shorts in summer – to the point that when I sit, I’ve managed to create a denim thong. 2. Making an effort and keeping in contact with people who I could never be my true self around. 3. Listening to workplace gossip while inwardly always disagreeing with their bitchy comments. Eugh, why didn’t I tell them to shut up? 4. Allowing managers to schedule me for all of the unwanted hours. An absolute waste of any possible social life.
I did these things because I felt guilty if I truly said how I felt, which was either ‘no’ or ‘I don’t care’. My main worry being that if I decline to do something, I end up sounding like a horrible person.
Well, halleluiah to this book! Thank you, Sarah Knight, for putting things into perspective. It turns out you can say no and not be an arsehole.
Sarah shows her readers how to choose things to give a f**k about. With no consequence of giving no f**ks at all. She provides examples of how to say ‘no’ without being dishonest and hurting someone else’s feelings. Although in some cases, some people will have their feelings hurt. This isn’t your fault, it’s theirs. ‘F**k the haters’.
Sarah illustrates how this leads to a happier life by gaining more valuable time, money and energy that we can use on other things. She covers how giving fewer f**ks can positively impact our body, mind and soul.
I thoroughly enjoyed this book which has made me feel confident and empowered to actively learn to say no and focus on the things that truly matter. Without any shame or guilt. Plus, some things she says is quite funny!
[Sarah is right, it’s time to live out my life to the full the way I want to. I only have one life and it belongs to me. Happiness is just one less f**k away.
BUY THIS BOOK – £12.99 from Waterstones. You can keep referring to it when in need of guidance so it’s good value for money.